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The Groom’s Side – Duties for the Groom and Party

Today’s blog post celebrates the Grooms and Groomsmen/Groomsmaids out there! I’m here with some tips and tidbits for the Groom’s side. This post is CHOCK FULL of everything you need to know…


If those members of your wedding party are local to you, you can opt for a great local option for suits. I love supporting local, whenever we can. I’m writing today from the western side of Massachusetts, so some great local options here are:

Jackson & Connor, Northampton MA

Jackson & Connor

or Mr. Hamdi’s, Greenfield & Northampton MA

If your wedding party members are not local, going with an option that has store locations throughout the United States or that offer delivery, are the easiest options. Check out places like:

J. Hilburn

j hilburn

The Black Tux

black tux


Groom’s duties:

  • If you are the popping the question, then one of your duties is picking out a seriously gorgeous engagement ring for your partner.
  • Pop the question!
  • Help choose the date..or at least month/season you want to get married.
  • Look at wedding venue options with your partner and wedding planner.
  • Choosing your side of the wedding party: best man/woman/person, groomsmen/groomsmaids and any ushers (if you will be using any. Lots of times, your wedding party will usher guests and parents).
  • Choosing the attire for your wedding party (psssst…refer to the options above) Be sure you choose colors and styles that will best match the look and vibe of your wedding.
  • Select thank you gifts for your wedding party.
  • Arrange and pay for lodging for your wedding party.
  • Select a wedding gift for your partner.
  • Compile your part of the guest list.
  • Help plan the honeymoon destination.
  • Choose wedding bands together
  • Apply for the marriage license together.
  • Attend rehearsal, usually held the day before the wedding.

Groomsmen/maid duties:

  • Plan the bachelor party or other pre-wedding event.
  • Order your attire in a timely manner.
  • Attend all scheduled fittings/tailoring appointments.
  • Purchase a wedding gift for the couple. You can all purchase your own, or go in on a larger gift as a group.
  • Attend rehearsal.
  • Usher guests/parents to their seats pre-ceremony, if asked to.
  • Stand in the receiving line, if there is one.
  • Make toasts during dinner or designated time during the reception.

Getting Ready (Grooms & Groomsmen/maids):

  • All hair cuts should happen about 2 weeks before the wedding.
  • Any face shaves should happen the evening before or morning of the wedding.
  • Allow for about an hour for yourself to get dressed and ready.
  • Be at the ceremony location 30-45 minutes before the wedding for two reasons:
    1. To be there to usher guests, who will likely arrive 30 minutes before the wedding.
    2. If the Groom is not seeing his partner before the ceremony, you will want to find a “hiding spot” to hang out in so his partner can arrive about 15 minutes before the ceremony without any issues.

Have any further questions? Comment below and I’ll answer them!


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